This is part two of our guest writer Tony Child you can read more about Tony and Part 1 of this 2 part series by clicking here.
We are happy to have his wisdom and instruction, so please enjoy…
Change Your Thoughts… Change Your Life – Part 2 – by Tony Child
Thoughts and Imagination
Welcome back! I hope my last post caused you to pause and think about your life and the direction you’re headed. If it did, you’re one of the select few who are willing to determine where they want to take their life. Most of the general population reacts to life instead of determining the direction they wish to take their life. I’m positive that with a few small changes, you can begin to change your thinking and, thus, change your life!
In his book Leadership, Sterling W. Sill stated the following:
“Some of the most serious obstacles to success are the imaginary hazards which never exist, except in our own minds. We fight the ghosts of doubt, the ghosts of unbelief, the ghosts of failure and fear. We are afraid of what someone will think, or afraid that someone doesn’t like us… We create a thousand hazards that exist only in our imagination.”
If this resonates with you, don’t worry because I’m sure you’re not alone. In fact, because we are human, our natural tendency is to look to the negative and use our imagination against ourselves. We imagine everything we don’t want and then wonder why we can’t get out of the “ruts” we’re in. When we can begin to control our thoughts and use our imaginations for the positive life we want, we can begin to control our circumstances.
Create the Life You Want
The following are a few tips I’ve learned over the past two years to begin creating the life you want:
Be very careful with the words you listen to, speak, repeat, text, write, etc. Words have great power and will create your thought patterns. Thoughts are normally born from words and both theology and psychology teaches us that “we become what we think about.”
Be careful of the words you surround yourself with (especially the ones you’re telling yourself). Create a positive affirmation statement you can read on a daily basis that focuses on the life you want, not on the one you’ve had. Focus all of your energy on what you want and don’t give any ounce of energy to what you don’t want.
It’s been said that we become a composite of the top 5 people with whom we associate. If you want to be different, find people in your life who are already living on the level you want to live on. If you want to be a positive person but consistently associate with pessimistic, cynical, and negative people, it will be very difficult to change. Spend some time thinking about the top 5 people in your life. Are they the type of people you want to become? If not, as difficult as it may be, it may be time to make some changes regarding some of these relationships.
One of the greatest dream killers is comparing ourselves to others who are doing what we want to do. We automatically jump to the conclusion that we need to be like so-and-so to be successful. We tell ourselves that it would be best if Lucy presented to the group because she’s a better presenter than I am or if Michael were to take that project because he’s much more creative.
I promise that the world needs YOU. It needs all of the gifts and talents you possess. There is only ONE you and the world is in need of you. Don’t measure someone else’s best self against your starting point. You will go nowhere but down with that measurement. Take one step every day to being a better you.
I heard the following statement through a great mentor of mine to repeat every day:
“Every day in every way I’m getting better and better.”
Repeat this every day, fifty times a day, and I promise you’ll begin to see the amazing potential you bring to the workplace. The world is in need of YOU.
- Knowing HOW
The other dream killer is needing to know HOW to accomplish what you dream about. You don’t need to know how. The fun is in figuring out how. When we get stuck on needing to know how, we put a lid on our dreams and cap our capacity. We eventually give up because we begin to think we don’t have the ability to do it. You have the ability and when you take small steps every day in the direction of your dream, the HOW starts to manifest itself. Based on the infinite potential locked up inside each of us, nothing is impossible!
Most people wait until they know how to do something before they get started. They don’t want to risk the embarrassment of possibly failing and having others say “I told you so.” Let me go back to bullet point 3… DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. Live the life you want and stop worrying about what others might think. Get really clear about the life you want to live and take at least one step every day in that direction. For me, I take steps every day. Big or small, I take a step. Do something every day that will move you closer to your goal and before you know it, you’ll be living the life of your dreams.
Super bowl winner Peyton Manning said that if you want to win, “invest in a coach.” He went onto say “It doesn’t matter how seasoned any of us are, we all need a coach. As soon as someone stops [being] coached, they’re in big trouble.” The hardest things to see in life are your own flaws and bad habits. Investing in a coach was the best decision I made. I have someone pushing me every week and holding me accountable to my intentions. Because of a coach, my best intentions turn into best actions. Action is what counts. Invest in a coach to push you and hold you accountable to the future you want.
I am positive that with the implementation of a few of these tips you will begin to see a new future. I look back to my day in the arm-chair two years ago and can’t believe the turns my life has taken for the better. I am doing what I love every day and couldn’t be more fulfilled. Every day in every way life is truly getting better and better.
What do you want to do, be, or have? What are you willing to give up in order to have the life you want? When will you start? Don’t delay. Start today! Remember, “our achievements today are but the sum total of our thoughts of yesterday.”
Change your thoughts and you will begin to change your life!